Children aged 6 - 12 who display out-of-control or violent behavior, are often very angry. It is the duty of the parent to try to control this kind of behavior, particularly if it is pathological and it manifest in violent behavior toward their peers or caregivers.
While children should be allowed to display anger, it is a human emotion. Unhealthy anger is not acceptable, because it generally means the child is focused on revenge. They want to have power over others, and they will try to achieve this end through hostility and threats. Adaptive anger is healthy anger, which is used to express emotions and find a solution. Chronic anger results when the child sees themselves as being a victim and there is usually a very serious reason for this.
Parents who want to know how to deal with their children's anger, particularly if it is out-of-control and violent, are more than likely dealing with unhealthy or chronic and disturbing anger. They have to learn to recognize what they are dealing with before they can learn how to handle it, this is the ultimate goal.
Children who continually display outburst of unhealthy or chronic anger are going to experience a series of circumstances. They will not be invited to the same parties as other children, they lose friend and no-one want to play with them, they are often taken off teams in the sports they enjoy, have trouble with their brothers and sisters, and parent generally start thinking, where did I go wrong.
It is very important to act on this behavior as soon as it starts and not allow it to go unchecked. Anger which is indulged will only get worse. These children seek out peers you are violent and out of control and the behavior worsens until it is of epidemic proportions. The good news is that there is parenting help available, with many online resources available. These will help you to distinguish what the problem is with your child and how to go about rectifying it.
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Jason Johnson (MSW) has spent many years working with hundreds of challenging toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, and Bi-polar. He has worked with children and their families in hospitals, mental health facilities, and he continues to go into client's homes until this very day. Jason works with boys and girls (ages 2-19) with SEVERE emotional/behavioral issue from various ethnic backgrounds, races, and religions.
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